Recently I can say that me and my child’s father have actually become great at the co parenting thing. It was rough over the past couple of years because he lives 4 hours away and we were not always on the best of terms. I was about 22 when I had my daughter and her father was about 23. We were a young couple trying to figure out who we were individually as well as how to operate as a family. Sadly enough it did not work out and we split. Yesterday was the first time Myself, My daughter and her father actually spent the entire day together in 5 years. He came into town for Halloween and took her shopping and trick or treating. Everything she wanted and picked out he bought for her. I have never seen her so happy in my entire life. The fact that she saw us all together in a positive light did something for her even if it was for a short period of time. We were HORRIBLE at communicating over the years and I believe that one day we finally decided to grow up. We are slowly redeveloping a friendship not only for our daughter but I believe for ourselves as well. As much heartache and pain a person may have caused you in the past, you have to take charge and somehow not allow that feeling to overcome your life and future happiness. Sometimes you just have to pick a day and say, “TODAY I START NEW.” I can actually say that we are co parenting now. It took a rock five years for us to finally get on the same page and develop an understanding. Every family is different and I am pretty sure there are those that can relate to single parenting and co parenting. I am just happy to say that I finally get it.
Well I honestly say that I have. Recently I have been fighting an inner battle of what to do with my life. I have a full time job which I enjoy, I am the parent of a beautiful little girl, I am back in school to finish my second degree, and I have a loving family. You would wonder exactly why would I feel like I am missing something in my life… Correct? Well the fact of the matter is, I am. I watched a video of Tony Robbins the other day speaking at a TEDTalk and the topic of discussion was.. “Why do we do what we do?” In a business sense he touches on success and how we need to give back and contribute beyond ourselves. I find this to be true. There are 5 key things to remember about life and how it operates.
I spent the entire weekend in the house with my daughter. Mainly because of the horrible rain and dreary weather, but also because it was necessary. Yes, I could have maybe gone out to a Mall or something just to get out of the house but this weekend was different. I literally spent almost the entire weekend in my bedroom watching television, catching up reality shows and scrolling the internet. I felt like that is something that I rarely get to do and decided to go for it. My daughter would come in and out when she needed me or I would pop in and out of her room from time to time and play here and there and that was pretty much it. Seeing that she is five now, so she feels as though she is somewhat independent, which I find pretty funny seeing that she can’t even reach the faucet in her bathroom to wash her hands. Anyway…. Yeah I am feeling quite refreshed. I almost felt guilty for a second because I felt as though I was being unproductive, but then I thought to myself, what if I went nuts from being over worked and stressed? I would definitely be unproductive and dysfunctional then. I baked brownies, ate ice cream and ignored phone calls that could possibly wait until Monday. Pretty much, be lazy sometimes, its OK.
So recently I have decided to get back into wearing lipstick. I used to wear it and turned to lip gloss mainly because I found one in particular and became addicted to it. Recently I have fallen in love with the Bobbi Brown Collection berry punch to be exact. I think this lip colors fall perfectly in line with FALL! I love the deep red and cranberry color lips for the season as well as the matte finish. Nude lips are also timeless all year long so always keep that in mind. The one lip color that I just can’t pull off are super dark lips, like black or dark brown. I have yet to find one that looks well on me. I am still on my search and hopefully I can find on that I like soon. Check out the Bobbi Brown Collection. I hate that it took me so long to try it myself.
Have you ever had a conversation with a man and you could not make eye contact. It’s not because you can’t look at the person, its because they won’t look at you. I just find it so odd and it really bugs me. Today I was talking to a male co-worker and I noticed that he kept looking down at the floor as we spoke. It made me quite uncomfortable because I could not figure out what the issue was. As curious as I was, I took to google just to see exactly how important eye contact was. Here are some interesting findings about those who make good eye contact:
Numerous studies have shown that people who make higher-levels of eye contact with others are perceived as being:
- More dominant and powerful
- More warm and personable
- More attractive and likeable
- More qualified, skilled, competent, and valuable
- More trustworthy, honest, and sincere
- More confident and emotionally stable.